In short, let's say you want you to please.
It causes me pleasure that hurts you. It will make you remember that I have been here, only me
Preference: When it comes to your caresses, I feel like a hungry man before a banquet
Position: I will get great pleasure, and even great joy if you submit to me. The more you submit, the greater my joy. The equation is quite simple.
I want you to give up everything for your own will. To please me.